Lessons from Flapper
Flapper passed away on the morning of March 25, 2011 from old age and congestive heart failure. He was the light of my life and an amazing little fluffy personality that I miss dearly. I keep sharing this news because visitors keep coming to the site and learning this news for the first time.
And now a little housekeeping… I’m starting another website called “Ducks and Clucks” to move forward, but I’m not quite ready to let go yet. So I will be posting memories of Flapper on this site for awhile, and it will stay here indefinitely for anyone who wants to look back on Flapper’s charmed life.
For the future, new places you can find us for new postings about our feathered family and animal rescue efforts will be:
On the web: http://www.ducksandclucks.com (not active yet, but coming soon).
On Twitter: http://twitter.com/ducksandclucks
On Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Ducks-and-Clucks/135074249898463
And now for the memories…
Molly Mason & Jay Ungar - The Ashokan FareweLL

From the moment I brought him home from the farm feed store (yes, I was careless and uneducated before I became self-righteous and all-knowing), Flapper amazed me. He was so resilient and confident and self-sufficient, yet so emotional and vulnerable and fragile. I somehow imagined adopting a duck would be like adopting a cat. You meet a few, you pick one or one picks you, and you take it home. But at the farm feed store, Flapper was one of maybe 75-100 ducklings in a pile in a pen. The entire floor was covered with yellow fluff balls, most destined to live only a short 6 weeks before being slaughtered for meat. A man grabbed a small box, reached into the pile of fluff and plucked out one little duckling for me. Flapper was shoved in a box and handed to me. He cost me $3 and his food cost $7. We were on our way… to work.
I brought Flapper with me to work for two days. I worked in an office on Dexter in Seattle, and my office-mate Dawn cut a hole in the box so Flapper could see out. She volunteered to be in charge of babysitting while I went to a meeting, and Flapper snuck out the hole and nearly fell to the floor. I believe Dawn caught him in mid-air. That would count as Flapper’s first of many near disasters in life.
Many of my coworkers get Flapper mixed up with O’Malley, who was raised in my new office downtown in September 2005. Flapper was featured on the KING 5 “Best Places to Work” video, but O’Malley was the one at work with me nearly every day for two months. It’s amazing what you can do at that company and not get fired.
But back to Flapper. In the spring of 2004, I had just purchased my first house. All I wanted once I had a house was to get a duck. I’m not entirely sure why. A friend had told me stories about his childhood duck and they stuck with me. That was part of it, but I’d always loved animals and I’d never had a bird. I’m allergic to most animals so having one outside seemed like a great idea. Having my own house made me feel like I could do whatever I wanted, so I got a duck.

One of the earliest lessons Flapper taught me was about love. From the moment he climbed into my shirt for comfort or snuggled up to my neck for warmth, he had me wrapped around his little wing feathers. I was his people every day for nearly seven years, and it was a joy to be around him. I am pretty close to O’Malley, and Simon depends on me, but Flapper was my sweet little boy. He needed me, and I needed him. Now without that little bundle of love, I feel like I’ve lost my voice. I spoke for him for so long on the blog, that without him here, there’s not much that I want to say. But I know that will change in time. Flapper’s voice has gone silent, but he has made an impact over the years that will live on in many ways without him.

I’ll be sharing more lessons from Flapper in the coming days, but that’s it for tonight.


30 Comments
I miss you Flapper. Thanks for sharing your life and stories with us.
You guys were made for each other.
You and Flapper helped to shift me towards getting my own ducks, and your adivice in ‘Want a pet duck?’ helped to make sure I planned long and hard, for many months. Now I have 8 beautiful and entertaining quackers. They’re a daily delight. Thank you to you and to Flapper for helping me step into responsible duckdom.
Flapper will always be remembered.
Love,
Me and my ducks (in Australia)
I love reading this. Im glad you are doing it.
Why do you have to change the rescue from Flapper blog? Cant it still be his .. he will live on forever in everyone’s hearts.. why not still run the site?
I look forward to reading the entries in the days to come. :0)
Quacks Tiffany ♥
Thank you Tiffany. ♥ ♥ ♥
Thanks for sharing your musings with Flapper. Like you said, your duck could have been the other 99 little furballs from the farm store box, but somehow you got Flapper and he ended up with you. Fate pulled the two of you together — it was meant to be.
After Mr. Quack Quack died, we put together a list of things he did that we missed the most. Delving into those raw memories was so hard and broke our already broken hearts into a million little pieces. But it helped us to face the grieving process in the long term. I think it’s great that you are doing the same thing here by posting Flappy’s memories, and ensuring that you (and we) would never forget about this legend ducky. Thank you again.
Tiffany, it has been such a privilege to share such love and joy that Flapper brought into your life and thankyou for openly sharing his life with us and also your own heart.
When I am away from my two Ducks it breaks my heart, they are truly wonderful to have around, my heart aches for the two I lost last year to fox’s.
My love and thoughts are with you sister xxx
I look forward to reading more Tiff.
Tiff,
It is clear that you have not lost your voice. In fact, your words continue to grow in profundity. It’s deeply moving and I’m glad we can share these moments with you. They are indeed so very special. Thank you. And thank you Mr. Flapper.
xoxo
Maximina
I’m becoming amazingly proficient at reading and writing thru tears. This is not a skill a little goose strives for, however, it’s becoming valuable remembering Mr. Flapper. I miss him so much.
honk honk
Your stories about Flapper are so touching. And the theme from “The Civil War”, Aahokan Farewell, is perfect. It’s hauntingly beautiful.
Beautiful tribute. And I know it’s just the beginning. We all learned so much from Flapper, through you. I think he will continue to teach you as you move forward on your journey. And, lucky us, we get to keep learning, too. Many hugs and loves. XOXO
I love reading about your memories of Flapper. I had pet ducks growing up and I loved them with all my heart. And now as an adult living in Chicago, not a home in Kansas, I help rescue ducks through a shelter. Please keep sharing about Flapper–he still has many lessons to teach us.
When my piggie Mariusz died, I searched and searched for a poem that would express the feelings for which I couldn’t find words. Flapper has meant so much to me that anything I say will be inadequate, so I’ll just copy the poems here. I hope they are comforting to you.
(Mariusz’s complete epitaph can be found here: http://www.dawncavalieri.com/mariusz/mariusz_epitaph.html.)
He only like himself, was second unto none,
Whose death (though life) we rue, and wrong, and all in vain do moan.
Their loss, not him; wail they, that fill the world with cries.
Death slew not him; but he made death his ladder to the skies.
—Fulke Greville, Lord Brooke
———
You are a shadow in daytime,
and a light in the night;
you live in my mourning,
and you don’t die in my heart.
Wherever I set up my tent,
you live close beside me;
you are my shadow in the daytime,
and my light in the night.
Wherever I ask about you,
I find news of you,
you live in my mourning,
and you don’t die in my heart.
You are a shadow in the daytime,
but at night, a light;
you are alive in my mourning,
and you do not die in my heart.
—Friedrich Rückert
I’m really glad you are sharing these memories of Flapper. I enjoy reading them and keeps him around a little.
Animals become pets and pets become our children. I can only imagine the void you feel without him now. It will take some time to work through the grief. You have many people who loved Flapper and you too because you cared for him. We will be here for you when you are ready.
I wrote down the website to come and the Facebook site so am ready when you are Tif. So glad we will have more stories through the ‘years’ and yet still honor Flapper with his own website that will be saved.
When i first learned about Flapper it was when he was on tv when you all won “Best Places to Work”. I couldn’t believe a duck could walk around at work. I was hooked especially because I live in the Seattle area so I feel more close to him and his backyard friends.
What has also been excellent about Flapper’s site is the education you Tif have provided for us on duck raising and do we really want to do something like that, do we know what is involved? I had 3 ducks growing for 5 years. I have always loved water fowl and have many wood, ceramic, plastic ones in my condo.
I’m so glad you are there to help rescue those ducks and chickens, geese that others leave off in parks and ponds, not wanting to deal with them anymore. Thank you for all you do and will continue to do.
I am glad to come across Flapper’s blog.
I never had ducks as pets and will never have, so it is kind of an eye-opener for me to read your postings about the life of a pet duckie.
Thank you very much for sharing, Tiffany.
Thank you. I thoroughly enjoyed reading that, and I wish I could absorb at least some of your heartache.
Tiff, I’m so sorry to hear about Flapper. I heard about him passing on Friday, but I just couldn’t bring myself to write. I’ve followed him since 2006 when I purchased my first geese. I too went into goose motherhood without knowing what I was doing, but reading here certainly helped and the various duck groups. I had known a goose many years ago as a teenager, one of them was lost to some dogs. The one left seemed to adopt me for some strange reason. He/she followed me, ran people off if they came near me. When I tried to go on a trail ride with my horse he/she tried to follow me. He/she tried to get really close to me. These geese had never been friendly, till this one lost his/her mate. Then one day, the barn owner found a new home for the goose and I didn’t see him/her again.
Then one day in 2005 a coon got into my henhouse and got one of my beloved hens. I felt so bad that I failed to protect her. I went out to the feed store. There were the geese, just a little over $2 each. Ping and Zhenny were the only two that were being bitten and beaten up, so I chose those two. I had no idea what kind of geese they were, I didn’t know if they were boys or girls. I just knew that they were adorable.
We had to got to Wal Mart from there so my girls held them on their laps inside the store while I grabbed what I needed. My oldest daughter and have been the major caregivers of them. I loved watching those two yellow balls of fluff following her around. Then one day I was “babysitting” them, I layed down on the floor and the each cuddled up to my face. I was really in love!
Now they are 5 years old and are like having toddlers around. They really are emotional creatures! Up till now they have lived inside at night (much to the dismay of my husband and now my mom since I had to move in with her due to her health) but we are building a new house outside for them and I’m making my husband crazy with how secure I want it. I feel truly guilty with putting them outside, not in the air conditioner at night and away from the bugs…I hope I’m doing the right thing!
So anyways, please know that I came to “see” flapper EVERY morning before work, I will miss reading about his antics! I will give my Ping and Zhenny a hug for Flapper every day! Please take care and thank you so much for sharing your boy with all of us!
Please know that my heart is with you as you deal with the loss of little Flapper. I am so grateful that I found Mr. Flapper’s website a few years ago. He brought me so much happiness all the way in Michigan!
Rest in peace little buddy. You are loved by so many!
I’ll miss you, Flap. You were a trooper and a good duck.
Your friend forever,
Boswell
Mr. Flapper’s voice will never be silent…
I had never heard the story of how you got “started in ducks” – thanks for sharing. I’ve been dreading the day I’d visit your blog and read this news.
Because of Flapper I’m much more aware of duck issues. I don’t think I’ve ever eaten duck before, but you can bet your tailfeathers I NEVER WILL! I have also started to boycott restaurants that serve foie gras (spelling?) because of Flapper’s work.
As a girl who still cries over her St. Bernard that passed 14 months ago, I wish I had some comforting words of wisdom to help ease your pain, but I don’t. My heart aches for your loss. I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing Flapper and his buddies with us. I always wanted a pet duck but knew having one would be too overwhelming living in the city with two house rabbits. Following your blog was the next best thing. You gave him a wonderful life. Rest in peace Mr. Flapper.
Sorry to hear of your loss. He sure was a cutie. I’m not a duck person exactly; a friend of mine is and she forwarded this story to me, but I do know how important pets are in our lives.
He was a wonderful fellow. I loved hearing his stories and watching him go about his life as he grew. He certainly had a full happy life there is no denying…and a perfect mother! I’m happy you shared him with us –
We’ve all learned a lot from Flapper, and you, and I’ll miss him.
You bought a house and then right away went out and got a duck! Wow, is that a familiar story! Little pocket sized rodents, house rabbits, and cage birds came first, in apartments. Chickens came along later, almost by accident. But when you finally own a house, you can finally get a duck! I understand completely, and I did exactly the same thing, back in 1984. I have not been duckless since then!
Oh Tiffany,
Right now, I am crying, and its hard to write. Flapper has been such a great part of our lives, it’s hard to imagine that he won’t be there anymore. I know the love you felt for him, and the bright spot he was in your life, as he was in mine. god bless Flapper, and you Tiffany for sharing with all of us onlookers!
Your story was so beautiful I had to comment. I can hardly believe how emotional your words were to me… Thank you for your wonderful biography of Flapper.